One-upmanship is a word which describes a phenomenon in societies where the ignorant, untalented and mediocre are desperate to glorify themselves and feel important by degrading and abusing another person.

Comparing oneself constantly to other’s personal talents, qualities, capabilities, skills and lifestyle leads only to a path of pure misery and mindless jealousy. He who covets what others have and only feels happy by spreading misery to all those around them can never be in peace with himself!

I have lost track of how many people I came across using the most ignorant, absurd and disturbing statements just to big themselves up. Self aggrandissement and one upmanship go hand in hand. Unfortunately some people cannot feel good about themselves unless they can knock somebody else down by all means possible.

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If you consider the industries and that the economy needs constant new blood to bring innovative ideas, to revolutionalise processes and techniques…how will change be allowed to take place when the current status quo facilitates the mediocre at the top of the pyramid?

Sadly this is the tragic phenomenon happening everywhere and few individuals even and approach the issue.

Right now only 20% of UK managers have any formal university qualification and as studies have proven they do recruit in their own image, common practice in order to protect their own position within the company.

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Consequently they will recruit someone non threatening, untalented who definitely will not rock the boat, while dismissing far better candidates with a lot more to offer…far above and beyond the organizational needs.

This tragic loss of talent and waste of human capital practiced on a grand scale is a disturbing phenomenon that eventually sends shock waves throughout the fledging economy.

At this stage the UK is lagging behind all other developed nations in the western world. UK productivity is roughly 27.3%, 35 percentage points lower than France, Germany and the USA.

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These days, it has become an official norm, regardless of one’s capabilities, to encourage and drive all personal attempts to succeed in life, regardless of the field or industry involved, to dream big!

Have a top job, work for the “big boys”, have a big house, a big car, a “trophy wife”, friends in the right places, homes abroad, luxury holidays, pedigree dog, etc.

So it seems only reasonable that when you don’t succeed first you will have to try again and again as long as it takes until you get things right.

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There are also those people who operate in a rather apologetic, dismissive and patronizing way towards the ignorance, mediocrity, lack of talented of under skilled individuals… from birth.

Too often, I have seen overzealous parents talking to their long time academic under performing child, careful not to hurt any feelings or affect one’s life aspirations or even risk causing trauma on a long term basis?!

Very few people take self development seriously though. Sometimes I wonder why should people strive at all to be the best they can? At times, being the best version of yourself or more than others can only really land you in trouble, as everybody else will feel inferior and threatened by the level your performance.

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For example, often in offices where the manager is under educated and unqualified he or she will make life miserable to the best educated person under his or her power, while  supporting and promoting another mediocre just like him or herself, regardless of how that will inevitably affect the rest of the organization’s ultimate goals.

I have also witnessed extremely talented, very skilled and intelligent applicants being rejected at interviews simply because the panel did know if the person would fit in with the rest of the less capable co-workers, if the applicant would integrate well, even the recruiting manager felt threatened by the applicant who was just keen on impressing the panel despite being clueless about the background details of that company’s real working culture.

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There are sad old women involved in this notorious group as well and they don’t hold themselves back either.

What is even more disturbing is the way these skint, repulsive and grotesque old folks prey on young people as sharks looking for an easy prey.

Repeatedly I witnessed them taking turns to approach especially single women (present there on their own) to extract personal information that later they would then relay and share with the other group members.

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These old scavengers study and observe their targets carefully before making a move. They start conversations in a friendly and innocent manner until the moment they decide to harass to get your personal contact details or invite a woman (old enough to be their daughter) to step outside the venue to basically pounce on the prey!

Amongst themselves they act like a mafia and take turns in approaching the female prey individually, each one using a different technique but always with the same intention.

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I still find it impossible to believe that none of the organizers have noticed that their venues are attracting such rogue low class people who obviously belong in the “red light district” but remain passive throughout.

I wonder if the venues are so desperate to place “bums on seats” at any cost as it is obvious to any discerning person what sleazy group these old folks are all about.

The venues have the authority to act in order to bar such corrupt and depraved individuals from entering their premises. The venues can also address the issue using the right to reserve entrance.

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Unfortunately, until some drastic measure is taken to amend this sad state of affairs, I suggest that other guests and visitors who attend those events be well accompanied.

Single women specially, should take a nice bunch of friends, work mates, relatives or a partner to avoid being distressed by the repeated unwanted sexual advances of such creepy, sleazy old folks in the capital’s most prestigious cultural and artistic venues.

 

You may not be aware but in the recent years there has been a strange and sinister phenomenon taking place almost unnoticed in the capital under most people’s radar.

This involves a certain Facebook group primarily set up by a foreign student teacher to showcase London to international students.

These days, the group has been taken over by prominently notorious members formed by retired men and women disturbingly hell bent on growing old disgracefully!

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If you are young and participate in the capital’s high profile cultural and artistic scene you have surely spoken to at least one of them unknowingly. The tragedy is that even if you do not wish to speak to them they will certainly come to you and try to impose themselves on you…

These characters are mostly white and 60+(with a few Asians thrown in it) retired or unemployed, windowers or divorced and their behaviour utterly depraved, shameless and starving for free booze, dosh and nookie…like scavengers!

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The Asian Art Week, the EBRD, art exhibitions, several reknown trade and consumer events, international cultural centres have all been favourite targets of their scavenging prowesses motivated by their eagerness to exploit and abuse the hosts generosity, courtesy, good will and act like sex pests… regardless of the nature of the event once the official reception starts.

One can notice how they surround and hog a generous table spread like vultures, barring access to other fellow guests waiting inside the actual reception room.

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Unfortunately this happens only too often in many high profile venues without anybody blinking an eye and not one single staff member of the host organization intervening or confronting them to stop the abuse, which sadly only spurs them on to pursue this sort of disgusting and appalling behavior in other places.

 

Source: Social Mobility – Part ll

The main focus of the debate about social mobility however was on the State v.s. Private education divide.

Studies have proven that privately educated working class individuals rarely attain a leadership position in any organization or any industry whatsoever.

During the years of private education strong personal alliances are formed as a copig strategy for later life. This is how such privileged pupils from exclusive institutions reach adulthood occupying outstanding professional roles knowing several specialists in various fields (since school days) who can be reached at the touch of a button.

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Those who attend State schools are more likely to become familiar with a future drug dealer, prostitute, institutionalized benefits claimant, cleaner or bin man…rather than seating next to the future prime minister, secretary for justice, medical doctor, MP, etc

Even those blessed by Nature to break through the poverty trap and get a scholarship to an Ivy League establishment will experience a massive shock in terms of social class divide, lifestyle, habits and extra-curricular activities that their own family budgets never allowed financially.

As much as they try to fit in they never will fit it completely but surely will survive the experience, but as outsiders looking in.

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Those early bonds created in life’s playground represent the social capital that opens doors in the later professional life through the formation of effective social networks.

Each network represents a social circle of opportunities, benefits, exclusive information and resources to be pooled out according to its members specific needs.

Some social networks are so tightly knit no outsider can step through the ranks. If you consider recruitment is informally carried out within the social networks via system of recommendations, that just leaves out everybody who is underprivileged, marginalized and simply not in the know.

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There is a massive gap in accessing the jobs market as every year many positions remain void since companies cannot fill them with suitable applicants. Yet society is so fragmented that the existent social classes do not interact or mingle in any way.

Universities may open doors to people set on learning and improving their life chances but once that is over, unfortunately they stand no chance of securing a well paid role and decent life standards because they have no social capital nor real access to the jobs market via those exclusive and tight social networks…therefore mind the (social) gap!

The UK unfortunately has the worst record of social mobility in the whole of Europe and evidence seems to indicate that those in charge do not wish for change to come either.

During last year’s conference on the topic, several relevant issues were explored by a panel of experts and many seemed to argue that education and training could constitute a paramount tool to improve social mobility prospects for any individual.

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The general consensus was that the current generation in the UK is facing less life prospects and is much worse off than the generation that came after WWll !!!

Some called openly for internships to be scrapped completely as it only fast tracks the offspring of the wealthy. Nobody else can afford to work for free in one of the most expensive cities in the world with no financial income…

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Others suggested investing in volunteering and work placements. Personally I find this is rather disturbing if you realize such “opportunities” work for some but not for others.

It has long been established that for example, work placements exploit the vulnerabilities of migrant and BME labour force, who frequently find themselves a lot worse off at the end of it.

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Volunteering in the meanwhile was heralded as a gateway to learn new skills and knowledge in order to progress to a new job and better life prospects.

That is when suddenly someone decided to speak out denouncing the rogue cheap labour practice commonly widespread.

Others emphasized the need to bring back the good old technical institutions in order to provide useful practical skills that lead to professional roles for those who are not that academically gifted.