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1. Relationships are everything

The happiest people in the planet have something in common…strong social relationships. This is not just about the numbers in your contact list but the strength of social relationships. The point is, the more social support you have, the happier you are. If you do one thing today to be happier, spend time with friends. Not spending more time with people we love is something we regret the most.

 

2. Do more, not less

The happiest people are those who are very busy but don’t feel rushed:

Surveys show the least happy group to be those who quite often have excess time. Boredom, it seems, is stressful and burdensome.

So what do you need to be doing? Fill your life with activities you do enjoy and do things you’re good at, things you are uniquely talented at that bring you joy. Studies have shown that the more you use your signature strengths in daily life, the happier you become. Signature strengths are the secret to experiencing more “flow” at work and in life. The old saw “those who do what they love never work a day in their life” seems true.

 

3. Do not stay in a job you hate

Frankly spending years in a job you dislike is a recipe for regret and a tragic mistake. These days people spend most of their living week at work stuck in offices (some are healthy environments, others are mostly toxic and dysfunctional).

Even if you love what you do there is no control over what surroundings and people you will have to grow used to.

Life is too short and precious and you only have 1 go at it! Do not waste time in a job you hate!

 

4. Plan your happiness

Regularly we treasure happiness a lot but treat it as an extra-terrestral phenomenon. Passively waiting for happiness to “happen” is idiotic because it just needs regular appointments. I will expand on this.

Try scheduling the things that make you happy.

Identify the activities and people with whom you want to spend more time and allocate your time thoughtfully. When you put something on a calendar, you’re more likely to actually do that activity.

Look at the things that make you happy and plan them into your calendar and schedule them. Do not wait for happiness to occur. Some manipulation does help…refuse to leave it to chance.

 

5. Happiness isn’t everything

There are different types of happiness and the word itself can be pretty vague at times. We do need happy feelings but we also need meaningful lives.

Studies suggest that happiness is mainly about satisfying individual wants and needs, including from other people or even just by using money. In contrast, meaningfulness was linked to doing things that express and reflect the self, and in particular to doing positive things for others. Meaningful involvements increase one’s stress, worries, arguments, and anxiety, which reduce happiness. (Spending money to get things went with happiness, but managing money was linked to meaningfulness.) Happiness went with being a taker more than a giver, while meaningfulness was associated with being a giver more than a taker.

Running marathons is painful. Completing them is awesome. Studying is boring. Having a degree feels great. Sometimes just feeling happiness in the moment is not everything.

 

6. Give but only so much

Giving makes us happier than receiving. In fact, it can create a feedback loop of happiness in your life. Helping others reach their goals brings joy. Doing nice things for others today can literally make you happier for the rest of the week.

However, sacrificing everything for others and being a martyr stresses you out and is bad for your health.

Research shows that on the job, people who engage in selfless giving end up feeling overloaded and stressed, as well as experiencing conflict between work and family.

If people start volunteering two hours a week, their happiness, satisfaction, and self-esteem go up a year later. Want to be a giver and be happier? Share this post with a friend and spread some happiness

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